How do you stay ‘visible’ when you’re going through massive change and feeling rather vulnerable and overwhelmed? First step is to become visible to yourself, what I call accessing your Inner Visibility! In this video, I share one way to access your Inner Visibility:
To move through your Visibility Challenges you need to feel first. Which doesn’t necessarily mean crying a lot. Tears often come from the thoughts you are churning over in your head- “Why am I such a loser?” “Or she or he is such a *****!” These angry thoughts or judging yourself center on your thoughts, and make you think that you’re feeling.
Pretty tricky, right?
Feelings are actually experienced as sensations in the body. So you need to feel the physical sensation in your body.
Once you actually feel, you become visible to yourself, and the energy moves inside of your body and there is now room to be more visible.
It’s like magic!
I will be leading you through this process of Inner Visibility and talking about other ways to access your Inner Visibility with Jessie Lucas on a lifestream for her Thrive Through Change Experience, Tuesday 9am PT.
I’m excited to have you join me in this exploration- it will be very revealing and useful– I promise!
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Like most transformational, highly-sensitive fem-preneur coaches, I still run into my pattern of hiding out in my Laptop Cave… I’m pleased to say that I don’t live there PERMANENTLY- anymore! But I sure was tempted to stay there!
I coasted and hid in the dark cozy caves of many a film editing room for 20+ years while I was working in the ‘biz.’
I sort of knew one day I would emerge and share MY message, but I wasn’t sure… I often judge myself on how long it took me, because it sure took me a while- 20+ years or so! But that was MY rhythm and MY timing- to get the courage to want more and follow my desire and belief that I could have more. Then I needed time to uncover the essence of my message of creating empowering images of women- which emerged from life experience of hiding and coasting!
And then I needed a coach who really saw what I had to offer and could help me feel safe in my body to take that giant step out of the cave. I am eternally grateful for her guidance.
As I embark on sharing my work around feeling safe to be visible in a more accelerated way, I’m feeling a little trepidatious. I’m feeling where my nervous system has gotten a little activated and my distraction pattern is kicking in. But as I’m determined to help highly sensitive coaches not get shut down and step through their visibility fears and shackles, I’m staying in motion and creating a doable goal, but a goal nonetheless and that alone can feel edgy and unsafe- especially when I share it out loud!
I’ve set a goal for myself of offering 10 “Dip Your Toe Into Video” Empowerment Sessions for the month of February to highly sensitive, transformational fem-preneur coaches who want to dip their toe into greater visibility and have some fun expressing themselves on video so that they can attract clients and make more money.
As I’m committed to not over push my energy like I used to, I need and would be so grateful for your help.
What motivates me? Because there are 10 million women-owned businesses in the United States alone and less than half of those earn more than 25K. I know what that’s like! It’s super stressful and super disheartening!
Many women are held back in their businesses by their harsh inner critics and fear of being seen. I want to improve those low statistics and teach women how to transform their visibility fears by simply Dipping their toe into video so that they can build successful, new paradigm businesses and fulfill their soul purpose!
I have moved through a ton of visibility fears and
made over 190 videos and
gotten over 64,000 views on Youtube!
With my 20 + years in the film industry and
15 years of somatic movement coaching,
I have helped hundreds of women dip their toe into video, feel safe to be seen and make money!
There are many, many transformational, fem-preneur coaches who doubt their gifts and feel like no one really gets what they do. They are intimidated by their own self-criticism of how they look and how they sound and they are hiding and scraping by. They are overwhelmed by Facebook, feel like they have nothing new to say: “so why bother?”—so they choose to lie low and hide in their Laptop Cave.
I cringe at the thought that they may never feel safe to take those first, tiny steps to expand their visibility and share their unique, important message.
Because if I can do it, they can do it!
That’s why I am committing to give 10 free “Dip Your Toe on Video” Empowerment sessions in the next 21 days!
These free empowerment sessions help women shift the fear that is straight-jacketing them and help them move incrementally, one step at a time to make videos and attract their soul clients.
So… Would you hold this vision for me of helping 10 women become more empowered and feel safe being a little more Visible?
And, if you know any transformational coach fem-preneurs who know they need to be visible are committed to feeling more safe being visible to grow their business in 2016, would you please share this with them?
I would LOVE to offer them a 30-minute complimentary “Dip Your Toe Into Video” Empowerment session and get them started on the path toward visibility empowerment in their business.
So what happens in these Free “Dip Your Toe Into Video” Empowerment Sessions?
In this private 30 minute session, I look at 3 main areas:
1. What are a transformational fem-preneur’s challenges when it comes to: being more visible, owning her message, making videos, being seen on Facebook, and attracting clients?
2. What would her life be like without these challenges?
3. I’ll give her my best recommendations to help her live a life without feeling straight-jacketed by her fear of being seen and feeling empowered and inspired to take some incremental, fun steps toward being more visible and attract her soul clients!
These recommendations have worked for many of my clients and I promise that she’ll be transformed from our short time together.
We’ll also take a few minutes to explore whether we would be a good fit to continue to work together. There is absolutely no pressure or strings attached… just a transformational conversation with someone who listens deeply, sees her Super Powers and believes that she can transform her fear of visibility into sharing her message and attracting her soul clients!
If you know someone who is ready, please encourage her to sign up right now for a Free “Dip Your Toe Into Video” Empowerment Session.
Thank you so much for assisting me in reaching my goal!! I can’t do this without you!!
To Your Expanded Visibility on Video and a Fulfilling Life!
Once you learn how to do very basic video editing, making videos gets way easier! Why? Because you don’t have to shoot tons of takes until you get it perfect. You can shoot a take and anything you mess up on, shoot that part over and edit the good pieces together.
The beauty of video editing on your iPhone is that you can shoot your video on your iPhone and then edit it right there without uploading to your computer.
The iMovie app makes editing FUN and super easy!
I remember learning how to edit on the iPhone with the iMovie app while I was waiting for a friend in the waiting room of a doctor’s office.
I had been resisting learning how to use the app, thinking it was going to be impossible to use because I had worked as a professional editor for 20 years and was used to editing on actual film or a computer!
I remember thinking, “How the heck can you edit on the iphone? This is ridiculous!”
It was kind of a blow to my ego that ANYONE could edit now! Not just ‘professional editors’ like me!
Luckily, I got over myself!
I couldn’t believe how easy it was to be fairly accurate and that I could edit right there with my headphones on! It was so much fun and felt like the best use of my time!
And the iMovie app comes free on every new iPhone. On the older iPhones (5 and earlier) it will cost you $4.99. Trust me, it’s worth it!
In this video I go over basic shooting and basic video editing to get you started. It will revolutionize making videos for your business!
It is so empowering to be able to edit your own business videos super quickly right on your iPhone. If you’re out and about, you can shoot the video, edit it and then upload directly to Youtube all from your iPhone. It is so streamlined!
Because this is my most popular video on Youtube– with 23, 390 views!— I will be making future videos on how to add music and titles really easily. Once you feel empowered to use the iMovie app, it’s really easy to figure everything out yourself.
Let me know if you are already using iMovie or have shied away from learning it. I am very curious!
And if you have any questions about how to use the iMovie app, post them in the comments below– I would be happy to answer them!
And do let me know if this revolutionizes making videos for you!
To your expanded visibility and thriving business!
I’m excited to share with you this video training on how to increase visibility easily. The more visible you are, the easier it is for your ideal clients to find you!
Making videos is not the only way to increase visibility!
You might find making videos is too visibility challenging for you, so what are some playful, easy steps to increase visibility?
Or you might be going through a visibility hangover from having been TOO visible and need some little visibility stretches to keep you from hiding and keep stretching you gently and ‘healing’ from all that visibility.
You dig?
I go through visibility hangovers all the time and when I want to stay in visibility ‘motion’ so I can integrate gently without shutting down completely – I play with these 3 fun ways to be visible.
Okay, to be totally transparent, I’d like to point out that I have ‘chicken arms’ in this video! Uggh!! And I didn’t know about this term until recently. I made a video about it last week if you want to learn how to get rid of those nasty chicken arms!
Let me know if you have some other suggestions on playful ways to increase your visibility! Leave a comment below, so we can all learn from each other!
I didn’t realize I was doing that with my arms until a few months ago! So guess what? Lots of my videos have chicken arms! Oops! Oh well!
So, moving right along…. in this video I teach a mindful movement practice that not only gets rid of those limp, nasty chicken arms but it helps you be more confident & magnetic in your videos!!
Though I felt really embarrassed when this speaker coach told me I had chicken arms in front of a group of people- ouch! I’m glad I know about it now because, now it motivates me to be more aware of my arms (and my body)– on video and on stage!
You would think that I automatically do this, having studied somatic movement for 14 years! Well the truth is, I am aware of my breath and how I’m feeling– which totally helps me ground and connect to my audience but I, too, can go a little unconscious with some parts of my body- like my arms!
And my neck can get a little locked as well, and my knees sometime. Can you relate? Next time you do a video, see if you can identify any parts of your body that you are ‘holding’ and not letting the energy flow through. This takes a little practice to become aware.
And the goal is not to be perfect! Your first step is to just use the mindful movement technique and becomemore aware of your body- that alone is a huge step to building this awareness muscle. Slowly but surely you’ll get more comfortable doing it and you’ll FEEL the difference as you talk and it will FEEL totally awesome!!
It’s easy to shift your posture so that your energy flows through your whole body.
This helps you to direct your energy to your audience and lets your message come through more confidently and more powerfully!
Find out out how simple it is to stop having chicken arms and be more magnetic in your Youtube videos!
I’d love to know how this is landing for you in the comments below! Does it make sense? Can you relate? Is it helpful?
Are you ready to have your mind blown? Well, I’m happy to blow it for you! I’m beyond EXCITED for you to join me on my ‘first’ Official Blabcast– at 1:11pm PT Wednesday, September 16th: “How is #Periscope enhancing your business?”
Whaaaaa? Not MORE social media!!
Before you zone out and go trim your toenails, hang with me on this!
I am here to introduce you to 2 new LIVE STREAMING VIDEO social media platforms that are definitely worth your precious attention.
And I’m going to make it really easy for you!
Just go to http://www.Blab.im to set up an account– or you can just watch as a ‘lurker’! 🙂 (You need a Twitter account to set up your Blab account if you want to participate!!)
I suggest using Google Chrome as well for more optimum results.
Make sure Skype is turned off.
Best to use headphones or earbuds if you want to jump into a hot seat so we can hear you well.
It’s an opportunity for you to hear how different folks (from the 30 Day Periscope Challenge and beyond) are using Periscope while experiencing possibly your first Blab!
Congrats if you’ve already starting Blabbing! I’m pretty green on Blab- though I did do some hilarious, impromptu practice Blabs, while Periscoping! So all of my ‘mistakes’ were witnessed!
So if I can jump in, so can you!! You dig?
And if you’re game, you can hop into one of the ‘hot seats’ and I will ‘grill’ you on your Periscope experiences, do some laser coaching or answer any questions you have about Periscope! Is this fun or what?
With Blab you get to participate in a few different ways:
by jumping into one of the hot seats on video!
or typing in the comments
or you can sit back and enjoy the whole experience and learn a TON of new amazing stuff about these hot new Live-streaming platforms!
and you can expand your visibility and meet new awesome peeps!
I hope you’ll dive in with me! Blab is still in beta testing- so you’re a pioneer- much more than an early adopter!! Same with Periscope!
And it’s WAYYYY easier than Google Hangouts!! YAY!!!
Isn’t it fun to be on the cutting edge of something brand new?
To your e*x*p*a*n*d*e*d VISIBILITY and sharing your message in new, fun ways!!!
I’ve been in a low visibility phase– at least in the video department– there are many ways to be visible, actually– but in the video dept. I’ve been lying low.
Then I went to a networking meeting and heard an awesome marketer sharing that sending texts to past clients is a really great way to stay in touch and let them know you’re still thinking of them. He suggested to send 10 texts the next day.
Well, I have been video texting a friend lately, just for fun and also to stay in video mode as I navigate this low biz viz phase. I realized that it would feel way more like I was walking my Visibility Talk if I made the effort to send Video Texts rather than just regular texts to my clients!
It makes sense, since I’m a Visibility Mentor but it also make sense because it increases the personal touch and connection and packs a whole lot more feeling and meaning! Right?
So I did! And it was super fun and felt way more effective. I got a lot of responses and even a few video texts back!
I also decided to use it with colleagues I had met at a few networking events, and with people I had met almost a year ago who I liked and had never stayed in touch with. I just sifted through this pile of business cards and poof! It felt so good to actually reach out and make a connection!
I find it is so clever that I wish I could say I invented video texting for client connecting! But alas, I didn’t, however, it FEELS like I did and I’m super stoked about the whole thing.
So if you want to learn how to video text, watch the vid– plus it’s cute! I had a lot of fun making it for you 🙂
Now let me know how it goes for you in the comments! I’d love to hear! And share whether you don’t want to send video texts and why. I’d really like to hear. I haven’t heard many others out there doing video texting in their business.
I want to dive in and share with you what I learned about Visibility at my Birthday celebration, a few days ago. What? Visibility again? Yes! And how it directly impacts my business (and yours too!)
I normally like to make my birthday as easy as possible and I try to get it done as painlessly as possible. Lately, I make the effort to do something so that I don’t regret not seizing the opportunity afterward, but it’s sort of a ‘should’ thing… not really an inspiring approach.
My usual approach is to have a beach-bash, pot-luck picnic with all of my dance peeps- a group of people who likes to hang together and swim in the ocean and play beach volleyball or whatever.
It’s fun! But…. It’s an easy way to hide, actually…
The focus is minimally on me but I get to be with everyone and be delighted that they showed up to play with me and celebrate.
But this year, I decided to invite a few women into my home for dinner- extremely last minute- in fact 2 days before! I am so grateful 7 of them came!
We sat outside in a circle. And when the sun went down, we got candles and each one shared what they loved about me. WOW! That was a lot more attention on me.
It was a major visibility stretch! And it was incredible!
And I had to wrestle inside of myself, the whole time, to just receive their love and beautiful reflections and not try to ‘do’ anything or to ‘match’ them and reflect back the same way they had just given to me.
Phew! What an exercise in really feeling and not trying to get rid of the feelings by giving it all right back. You know? An exercise in receptivity and containment.
A lot of negative thoughts popped in, judging how I was responding to each woman:
“Oh you aren’t really opening your heart the way she is.”
“You’re not really giving to her.”
“You’re not really a good friend.”
“You’re a fraud.”
“They’re just being nice to you, but you really don’t deserve it.”
WOW! Can you relate to this? It’s not pretty…
But luckily, I noticed these thoughts and kept re-directing my focus to just be present, really receive each friend and thank her. Just share my gratitude as it came up in each moment with each one. And just trust that I can just share what comes up and they will still love me as I am.
What an exercise in trust, receptivity and allowing myself to be visible. I realize this is a form of performance anxiety that I was unwinding. Sound familiar?
Does this come up for you when you put yourself out there? When you send an email to your list? Make a video? Launch a program? Make an offer? Post on Facebook? So much opportunity to tear ourselves down after we take a big step outward, in visibility. And then we collapse and withdraw and take fewer steps forward for a while.
I’ve noticed the impact of these “visibility crashes” –how costly they are to my business. And it makes it harder to actually STAY in business!
This is one of the things I help my VIP clients with. How to stay in the game after taking major visibility steps- whether it’s on video, or making offers or launching etc… I coach them on the visibility shut down as well as on how to stay fully present and connected so that you show up as magnetically as you can when you’re stretching your visibility!
This boosts their productivity and their ability to keep bringing in new clients! They have the visibility stamina to stay in motion and keep showing up!
I am so grateful to be able to offer this kind of support and to continually be growing in this area, myself, so that I can keep supporting women to do the same. And I have to say, it is a physical, movement skill, an emotional skill as well as a mental skill to be able to do this.
How do you handle visibility stretches? What works for you? I’d love to know!
It is my passion to support you in sharing your beautiful self, unapologetically and completely authentically. Keep shining!
Okay so I’m not feeling so Visible these days. Haven’t made a video in several weeks and that last one I made, I muscled through to promote my Video workshop at Mystic Journey Bookstore. Which, though ‘petite’- only 5 people- was a really awesome workshop! Everyone made a video from start to finish! Everyone shifted one of their visibility stuck patterns! So yay!
Deadlines are always an awesome way to get into action however…. they are somewhat artificial in terms of what’s happening inside. eg. I muscled through making the video, doesn’t mean I addressed the reason I wasn’t making videos. Right?
So it’s great I got into Visibility Action but it was a temporary get into Visibility Action and I fell right back into Visibility Inaction- or should I say- Visibility ‘Reduced’ Action -because I didn’t stop moving- entirely! I have been handling the basics of my biz- I gave an awesome workshop, gave awesome sessions to my clients and I did a lot of physical fun stuff over the weekend: swam in the ocean, went dancing in a new venue, and I squeezed in a last-minute-before-the-sunset, hike! Each time with a different friend- that’s right-not alone! So I call all of that Visibility Action! Right? Phew! I feel so blessed to have great friends!!
So, there is Visibility Movement happening in my biz and my life. Yay, moi!
Step #1 It is VERY important to look at where you are in your Visibility Action- not just fixate on where you aren’t–eg. I am not making videos. This gives you the feeling that you’re not a total disaster!
But…
I have also been on a rom com marathon, bingeing here and there, and I am simply unwilling to do any networking and doing only minimal marketing. i.e. NO expanding going on and NO visibility stretching, if you know what I mean.
It’s taking a little while to address the underlying cause for my “hang-out-inside -my-cozy-Turtle-shell” phase aka reduced visibility phase I’m going through. But because I have done Step #2: gone inward, per Turtle medicine– (Thank you to Sandy Dow, my shamanic performance coach)-I got some major downloads from serendipitous sources!
And thanks to my Priestess Guidance coach, Kayoko Omori, I’ve done Step #3 and given myself permission to get cozy and enjoy all of the rom com-ing, bingeing, and resting –emotional processing is exhausting– and fully receive the deep feelings and transformation I am going through in the relationship department!
And thanks to two friends, I have processed several times for the past few weeks and helped them process as well! Step #4: speak to VERY good friends who can listen and give neutral feedback!
Yes, I watched both Bridget Jones and
both Legally Blondes!! Not all at once!
Bridget Jones is ‘Anxious’, fatally attracted to ‘Avoidant’ Hugh Grant – a classic mismatch as both are attachment-challenged in the relationship department. She goes through a journey of the Dark Night of the Soul and finally chooses the ‘Secure’ Colin Firth which though not necessarily easy, will be ultimately a better match for her! Read “Attached” if you want to learn more about these 3 attachment styles! Super duper helpful!!
It hasn’t been easy and it has brought up a ton of emotion, going all the way back to Father issues- and made me evaluate all of my past relationships and the recurring patterns. But it’s also been totally liberating and enlightening!
And as a result, I am feeling totally motivated to write this blog! Now that’s a visibility stretch in my book!
So, acknowledge what you are doing well,get where you are really at, go inside,feel, rest, self-care, give yourself permission to indulge, and process with good friends! It works!
All of this has relaxed my system and I don’t feel so shut down anymore.
So, in answer to the question in the title: “Can you make a video when you’re breaking up?” Well…. I’m still pretty fried and I haven’t made the video yet, but I’m getting closer and instead, I’ve written this blog and I’m quite pleased! But only because I really got honest with how I was feeling- eg. fried, emotional, upset about a relationship ending and took the necessary steps to take care of myself!
It is so important not to push and not to force yourself to make videos every week. Though consistency is a virtue and really helps your business, we are not robots running on artificial schedules. We are human beings and have cycles of ups and downs. So, listen to yourself and honor your rhythm. And get help and support when your’e going through the rough ‘reduced’ visibility stretches.
Cheering you on!
How does this resonate for you? I’d love to hear in the comments below!!
Today I’ve got an exciting announcement. I’m goin’ live- and goin’ local!
I’m teaching a workshop at the beautiful Mystic Journey Bookstore in funky Venice this coming Saturday 2-3:30pm! Here’s my quick impromptu video (shot at 7 am -yikes!- to minimize being seen!)
The workshop is called: “Get Visible + Attract Committed Clients for your Transformational/Spiritual Business using Video!” You can find out more here!
And yes! It’s a $10. donation to the Bookstore! Crazy, right?
Live in LA? I would love to have you attend and get to meet you in person!! What a concept!
Know someone in LA? Please share this with them! Bring a friend and build your video team!
Now, take a moment…
Imagine you are having a blast expressing yourself creatively, unabashedly, and powerfully in your business! And by being totally You, you attract committed clients from around the world who resonate with your spiritual coaching or transformational work. Your soul feels fulfilled and happy. Your business is humming!
That’s the underlying intention of this workshop!
You’ll learn:
Why video is particularly effective for spiritual/transformational business owners
How to set yourself apart and position yourself as the expert you are to boost your client flow
The structure of a “Tip Video” that encourages clients to want to get to know you
How to have FUN making your videos = magnetic videos = build your tribe
And you’ll actually make:
your own video from start to finish with your smart phone!
Now that’s Diving in and Doing it! Right?
Mystic Journey has a high-vibrational, gorgeous and intimate workshop space for about 20 people, so I am anticipating this will fill up rather quickly. Priority seating will be given to those that show up by 1:45 PM.
I can’t wait to see you in person this Saturday! It’s going to be an interactive, fun and action-packed workshop.
P.P.S. I’m curious to see which is more effective at bringing in people: my offline (flyers, word of mouth) or online (video, email, facebook) approach! That should be interesting! If you’re curious, check back here next week!
I will be leading you through this process of Inner Visibility and talking about other ways to access your Inner Visibility with Jessie Lucas on a lifestream for her Thrive Through Change Experience, Tuesday 9am PT.
Before you zone out and go trim your toenails, hang with me on this! 
It’s taking a little while to address the underlying cause for my “hang-out-inside -my-cozy-Turtle-shell” phase aka reduced visibility phase I’m going through. But because I have done Step #2: gone inward, per Turtle medicine– (Thank you to Sandy Dow, my shamanic performance coach)-I got some major downloads from serendipitous sources!